My two kids couldn’t be more different, and I continue to learn from them and through them on a regular basis.
Taya has a really witty sense of humour, has such creativeness, and a love of drama, dance and singing.
Jay is doing so well in tennis, and I admire his continued success at school- particularly his ability to continually learn.
I regularly see something in both of them that’s a mirror of myself, mostly good but sometimes the not so good, so I have to be careful to manage my ways!
At 45 years of age, I find I’m learning more now about myself, business, relationships, my kids, and life in general than I ever have before. It’s like when my kids were 2 years old, and they asked why so much that sometimes I found myself pausing and trying to articulate the right answer – and yet the why’s just kept coming!
Today I find myself doing the same thing more and more, asking questions and trying to understand the why in a lot of things that I’m doing or experiencing.
Taya has the ability to sit for hours; playing, drawing and creating things through her craft. When I get the chance to sit and do it with her, I end up getting so much enjoyment out of it. I find I can stop my brain thinking about everything going on in life and can just focus on the one task. She and I get so much out of that quality time and she doesn’t even realise that yet, but geez, I do on so many levels. It’s just one little activity but with so many benefits.
And with Jaylan on the other hand – together we are having such an enjoyable journey with his tennis. These days he and I spend a lot of time away from home at tennis tournaments both locally and afar. The one on one time with him is very similar to the experience I’m having with Taya. We get time away from the things we would normally be doing on the weekend.
Life all of a sudden got really busy with my kids growing up so fast. Me and Jay have long chats about everything and anything, there is a lot of tennis in there but he is learning and experiencing a lot of life’s lessons on that tennis court and I’m watching him grow up very fast, particularly in the last six months.
The emotions from winning and losing.
Working out quickly his opponents’ strengths and weaknesses.
Trying to get over the nerves and pressure of playing against seeded players and players he has never played before.
His confidence on and off the court has grown so much recently, and I’m so proud of him. We are turning the discussions around the losses into learning discussions, and I’m learning so much from him through the experience.
So what am I really saying?
I’m really enjoying my kids growing up, making the effort to spend time one on one with them. They get so much out of it and I’m right there with them, getting just as much out of it in return.
Life is a real journey and if you can experience more and more with them, then the learning, the relationship and bond will be so much better for it.
I love them both very much for the little humans they are becoming.
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